Reciprocity in relationships shapes our relationships over time because it reflects the balance that needs to exist in order for optimal connection to be established.   One way to understand reciprocity is through how Brené Brown talks about vulnerability. She describes it as putting your toe in the water. You do not jump all the way in. You share a little and pay attention to what happens next. That pause matters because the response tells you whether the relationship can h

This December marks two years since Me Too: A Therapist’s Journey to Heal, Find Liberation, and Joy was published. I still remember the palpable fear I felt, which continues to surface from time to time even today - knowing that I placed the most deeply parts of myself into the world for others to hold. What became clear to me then is that fearlessness is a fallacy, but love helps you take action in spite of fear. Choosing love over fear doesn’t mean fear disappears. It beca

I’ve been working diligently to bring   Love Will Liberate   to life, my new book that officially releases on January 31. These past weeks, the writing has taken on a different energy. The pages have moved fast, almost urgent, and one message has pushed itself forward again and again:   love becomes real through action.   Feeling love is simple. It rises without permission and fades and rises again. But feeling alone doesn’t help someone feel loved.   What gives love its shap